LET THEM, GO!!!
TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS AND FELLOWSHIPS:
Rist for all of you who do support me, I'm your Senior God-Ordained Chosen Apostle, Christ Jesus, Ambassador & Messenger and He sent me, Elder James Winfree Sr, to serve all of His spiritual Kingdom sons and daughters in the faith of the Lord Jesus Christ. )
Awesome and All-Knowing and Knowledgable Holy Spirit,
You are The Teacher here and we want to learn from You!
( LET THEM GO, LET THEM GO, LET THEM GO IN LOVE GRACE AND MERCY! )
Dear Holy Spirit, please help me with this message in Jesus' Name,
The word toxic means “poisonous.” Toxic relationships are those that poison our peace and our ability to enjoy another person. A toxic relationship will leave one exhausted, frustrated, and, in some cases, depressed. Toxic relationships can affect business partnerships, sports teams, and, of course, families. Some disharmony in a relationship is normal; however, some people inject poison into every relationship, making healthy give-and-take impossible. Those are toxic people, and the Bible has some advice for us in dealing with them.
There will be some people whose company we don’t prefer, but that doesn’t make them toxic. We may be opposites in ideology with someone but we can maintain a comfortable relationship. Baptists can enjoy the company of Pentecostals, a New Christ Believer can have a friendly relationship with a nonbeliever, and a wealthy person can engage in healthy interactions with a non-wealthy person. But when a person is toxic, he or she is unable to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone. Only those willing to suffer the selfish demands of the toxic person can endure such a relationship for long.
Several factors determine whether or not a relationship or a person is toxic:
1. The relationship is completely one-sided in favor of the toxic person. Toxic people are incredibly narcissistic and can think only of themselves and what they want at the moment. This is a direct violation of ( Philippians 2:3–4 ), which says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Toxic people may pretend they are doing something for someone else, but there is always an ulterior motive that will benefit them.
2. There is continual drama in toxic relationships. Ironically, toxic people are often the ones who proclaim for all to hear how much they “hate drama.” Yet they instigate it everywhere they go. They seem to thrive on it. They cannot go from point A to point B in a simple, straightforward manner. They are a constant tangle of excuses, lies, fabrications, and crazy situations that weary everyone else in their world. They enjoy complicating otherwise simple situations because it keeps attention focused on them.
3. They are always right. Always. Toxic people look with disdain at anyone who dares correct or disagrees with them. They mask their extreme pride with fake humility, but there is rarely any true repentance because they don’t believe they are wrong. It is everyone else’s fault. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before a fall and a haughty spirit before destruction.” Haughtiness dominates toxic people, even when they try to hide it behind self-pity or groveling. If you are in a toxic relationship, the “destruction” the toxic person has earned due to pride often lands on you, too.
4. Others dread confrontations or interactions with a toxic person. They may appear delightfully charming to outsiders, but those in a relationship with a toxic person know the real story. Every interaction, no matter how innocent it may be, ends with the twist of a dagger. Everyone else is left with the fallout while the toxic person skates away seemingly unfazed. If you become anxious at the thought of another interaction with someone in your life, through no fault of your own, you may be in a toxic relationship.
5. Toxic people relish victimhood. Everything happens to toxic people, and the world should take notice. They shouldn’t be held responsible, they think because it wasn’t their fault, even though it was. Self-pity practically drips from them, even though they may mask it with a facade of strength. They love to appear as martyrs and will even construct situations that portray them in that light. Those in a relationship with a toxic person usually end up looking like the bad guy. Outsiders often silently judge the friends or family members who are “intolerant” of this poor victim, which creates division and misunderstanding in peripheral relationships.
6. Toxic people lie. If their mouths are moving, toxic people are probably lying. They lie more easily than they tell the truth and are so convincing that even those who know better question their perceptions. Toxic people justify their lies by telling themselves that they have no choice. When caught red-handed in a lie, they may feign remorse, but all the while they may be concealing a dozen more lies no one has discovered yet. Scripture has harsh words for liars. God has a zero-tolerance policy for liars, and He is not fooled by any of their excuses ( Revelation 21:8 ). Proverbs 6:16–19 lists seven things the Lord hates, and lying is on the list twice.
King Saul is an example of a toxic person. He began well, but power, pride, and jealousy crippled his soul. His furious jealousy of young David manifested in a confusing array of moods. One moment Saul was calm and enjoying David’s music; the next he was trying to kill him ( 1 Samuel 19:9–10 ). Saul would appear to show remorse, but soon he was hunting David again (1 Samuel 24:16–17; 26:2, 21). Later, Saul violated a serious command from the Lord so that people would think well of him (1 Samuel 15). That sin cost Saul his kingdom.
We have been called to peace ( Colossians 3:15 ), but a toxic relationship destroys peace. Some people are so abusive that they will not allow us to seek or broker peace in any area. When the relationship is continually filled with unwanted drama, when you find yourself dreading the next blowup, when you cannot believe anything this person says, or when someone is destroying your reputation and sanity, then it is time to create distance in the relationship.
Psalm 1 gives specific instructions about keeping away from wicked people. We are blessed when we do not seek out friendships with them or listen to their counsel. Toxic people fit into that category. They are not content to destroy their own lives; they must take others with them. It helps to remember that you cannot change a toxic person, especially from within a toxic relationship. You cannot help toxic people unless they want to be helped. If family members or friends don't believe in you, your dreams, your visions, your destiny, and most importantly your faith in Christ Jesus, it is time to Let them go, let them go, LET THEM GO!!!
People-pleasers are the most frequent victims of toxic relationships because they want the toxic person to like them. But there are times when closing the door on a relationship is the wisest thing you can do ( Proverbs 22:24–25 ). If you are married to a toxic person who has turned your relationship into a toxic marriage, then a separation may be in order, along with some focused marital counseling. If you are not married, then it’s time to say goodbye. I have talked with many preachers and people in many nations here on this worldwide social media network on many websites, groups and sad to say many are looking for money and what they can receive from those they think could give them something, and use the bible, people and Christiany for self-gain and self purposes. Yes, these ministers and people even use little children and the elderly to get money.
In every situation involving a toxic relationship, take the matter to God in prayer. Cry out to “receive mercy and find grace” to help in the time of need ( Hebrews 4:16 ). “Cast all your anxiety on Christ because Jesus Christ cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). Petition the Lord unceasingly to change the heart of the person bringing the toxicity. There is hope and healing in Him. So, again I say, Let them go, let them go, let them GO!!!. Amen.
There will be some people whose company we don’t prefer, but that doesn’t make them toxic. We may be opposites in ideology with someone but we can maintain a comfortable relationship. Baptists can enjoy the company of Pentecostals, a New Christ Believer can have a friendly relationship with a nonbeliever, and a wealthy person can engage in healthy interactions with a non-wealthy person. But when a person is toxic, he or she is unable to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone. Only those willing to suffer the selfish demands of the toxic person can endure such a relationship for long.
Several factors determine whether or not a relationship or a person is toxic:
1. The relationship is completely one-sided in favor of the toxic person. Toxic people are incredibly narcissistic and can think only of themselves and what they want at the moment. This is a direct violation of ( Philippians 2:3–4 ), which says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Toxic people may pretend they are doing something for someone else, but there is always an ulterior motive that will benefit them.
2. There is continual drama in toxic relationships. Ironically, toxic people are often the ones who proclaim for all to hear how much they “hate drama.” Yet they instigate it everywhere they go. They seem to thrive on it. They cannot go from point A to point B in a simple, straightforward manner. They are a constant tangle of excuses, lies, fabrications, and crazy situations that weary everyone else in their world. They enjoy complicating otherwise simple situations because it keeps attention focused on them.
3. They are always right. Always. Toxic people look with disdain at anyone who dares correct or disagrees with them. They mask their extreme pride with fake humility, but there is rarely any true repentance because they don’t believe they are wrong. It is everyone else’s fault. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before a fall and a haughty spirit before destruction.” Haughtiness dominates toxic people, even when they try to hide it behind self-pity or groveling. If you are in a toxic relationship, the “destruction” the toxic person has earned due to pride often lands on you, too.
4. Others dread confrontations or interactions with a toxic person. They may appear delightfully charming to outsiders, but those in a relationship with a toxic person know the real story. Every interaction, no matter how innocent it may be, ends with the twist of a dagger. Everyone else is left with the fallout while the toxic person skates away seemingly unfazed. If you become anxious at the thought of another interaction with someone in your life, through no fault of your own, you may be in a toxic relationship.
5. Toxic people relish victimhood. Everything happens to toxic people, and the world should take notice. They shouldn’t be held responsible, they think because it wasn’t their fault, even though it was. Self-pity practically drips from them, even though they may mask it with a facade of strength. They love to appear as martyrs and will even construct situations that portray them in that light. Those in a relationship with a toxic person usually end up looking like the bad guy. Outsiders often silently judge the friends or family members who are “intolerant” of this poor victim, which creates division and misunderstanding in peripheral relationships.
6. Toxic people lie. If their mouths are moving, toxic people are probably lying. They lie more easily than they tell the truth and are so convincing that even those who know better question their perceptions. Toxic people justify their lies by telling themselves that they have no choice. When caught red-handed in a lie, they may feign remorse, but all the while they may be concealing a dozen more lies no one has discovered yet. Scripture has harsh words for liars. God has a zero-tolerance policy for liars, and He is not fooled by any of their excuses ( Revelation 21:8 ). Proverbs 6:16–19 lists seven things the Lord hates, and lying is on the list twice.
King Saul is an example of a toxic person. He began well, but power, pride, and jealousy crippled his soul. His furious jealousy of young David manifested in a confusing array of moods. One moment Saul was calm and enjoying David’s music; the next he was trying to kill him ( 1 Samuel 19:9–10 ). Saul would appear to show remorse, but soon he was hunting David again (1 Samuel 24:16–17; 26:2, 21). Later, Saul violated a serious command from the Lord so that people would think well of him (1 Samuel 15). That sin cost Saul his kingdom.
We have been called to peace ( Colossians 3:15 ), but a toxic relationship destroys peace. Some people are so abusive that they will not allow us to seek or broker peace in any area. When the relationship is continually filled with unwanted drama, when you find yourself dreading the next blowup, when you cannot believe anything this person says, or when someone is destroying your reputation and sanity, then it is time to create distance in the relationship.
Psalm 1 gives specific instructions about keeping away from wicked people. We are blessed when we do not seek out friendships with them or listen to their counsel. Toxic people fit into that category. They are not content to destroy their own lives; they must take others with them. It helps to remember that you cannot change a toxic person, especially from within a toxic relationship. You cannot help toxic people unless they want to be helped. If family members or friends don't believe in you, your dreams, your visions, your destiny, and most importantly your faith in Christ Jesus, it is time to Let them go, let them go, LET THEM GO!!!
People-pleasers are the most frequent victims of toxic relationships because they want the toxic person to like them. But there are times when closing the door on a relationship is the wisest thing you can do ( Proverbs 22:24–25 ). If you are married to a toxic person who has turned your relationship into a toxic marriage, then a separation may be in order, along with some focused marital counseling. If you are not married, then it’s time to say goodbye. I have talked with many preachers and people in many nations here on this worldwide social media network on many websites, groups and sad to say many are looking for money and what they can receive from those they think could give them something, and use the bible, people and Christiany for self-gain and self purposes. Yes, these ministers and people even use little children and the elderly to get money.
In every situation involving a toxic relationship, take the matter to God in prayer. Cry out to “receive mercy and find grace” to help in the time of need ( Hebrews 4:16 ). “Cast all your anxiety on Christ because Jesus Christ cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). Petition the Lord unceasingly to change the heart of the person bringing the toxicity. There is hope and healing in Him. So, again I say, Let them go, let them go, let them GO!!!. Amen.
Yes, We will, and Yes We will obey God's Word and Voice.
(1 Corinthians 12:28 )
And God Has Appointed these in The Church: First Apostles, Second Prophets, Third Teachers, after, Miracles, then Gifts of Healing, Helps, Administrations, Varieties of Tongues. Amen.
Sincerely, God's Honorable Serving Senior Apostle & Messenger, Elder James R Winfree Sr.
Yes, I Dare you to be Free,
( But Most Importantly, The Lord Jesus Christ DARES you to Be, Stay, and, Remain, FREE ).
I Do Love you with godly love in Jesus Christ!
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